Some gifts for my friends! Igor Grom meets a cat and @cardiac-silence 's Marion!
aroace characters are valuable. they aren’t boring. they are important queer rep. their stories are important. they are groundbreaking. they aren’t any less than other queer characters. they don’t deserve to be erased.
so i saw this sponsored post made by a trans man and he was talking about how much he loved his girlfriend (who’s a trans woman) and i was like aw that’s so sweet and then i went into the comments and saw some idiots who were like “ew i hate the straights” and i just wanna say that idc if you’re gay yourself if your first thought upon seeing a trans man and trans woman who are in a loving relationship is “omg the straights are so annoying lol i hate the straights” i genuinely hope you die alone ❤️
Still bothered by the US cultural idea that men can only be non-romantically intimate with one another in war-like or competitive circumstances.
I'm pretty quiet about the fact I'm a transman usually, but holy shit I need to tell you about the culture shock I'm going through because it's blindsiding me.
There's a huge sense of social isolation that comes with being perceived as male, because now people are subconsciously treating me as a potential predator. All strangers, no matter their gender, keep their guard up around me.
It made me realize that there is no inherent camaraderie in male socialization as there is in female socialization—unless, of course, it's in very specific environments. And the fact I don't amnbiently experience this mutual kinship in basic exchanges anymore is an insanely lonely feeling.
You know how badly this would have fucked my mind up if I had grown up with this?
It is 4:30am and I'm mourning the loss of a privilege I didn't even know I had.
Anyway, I'm going to figure out how to navigate this. Don't know how yet, but I'm gonna.
Absolutely, because it's an extremely sticky issue.
Frankly, this is something I would've never understood without living the experience.
It's now blatantly clear to me that most cis men probably experience chronic emotional malnutrition. They're deprived of social connection just enough for it to seriously fuck with their psyches, but not enough for them to realize that it's happening and what's causing it.
It's like they're starving, but don't know this because they've always been served 3 meals...except those meals have never been big enough.
This deprivation comes from all sides of aisle, by the way.
In the case of women: When I'm out in public and interact with women, all of them come off as incredibly aloof, cold, and mirthless. I have never experienced this before even though I know exactly what this composure is—the armor that keeps away creepy-ass men.
As someone who used to wear it myself, I know this armor is 100% impersonal. Nobody likes wearing it, and I can say with absolute certainty that women would dump the armor in favor of unconditional companionship with men if doing this didn't run the risk of actual assault. (Trust me when I say women aren't just being needlessly guarded.)
But I only have a complete understanding of this context because I've experienced female socialization. If I hadn't, I would've thought this coldness was a conspiracy against me devised by roughly half of the human population. Even now, with all that I know about navigating the world as a woman, I'm failing to convince my monkey-brain that this armor isn't social rejection.
And as for male socialization? Again, it seems taboo for a man to be platonically intimate with men for reasons I have yet to fully understand, but I think it boils down to a) the fact society teaches boys that it's not okay to be soft with each other, and b) garden-variety homophobia. Our media only shows men being intimate with one another when they're teamed up against a dire situation, and I'd bet real money it's a huge reason why men gravitate toward activities that simulate being teamed up against an opposing force.
But men are not machines of war. Yes, testosterone absolutely gives you Dumb Bastard Brain, but that just makes you want to skateboard a wagon down a hill or duct-tape your friend to the wall, not kill someone.
The human species looks so much colder standing from this side.
I can see how men might convince themselves that their feelings of emotional desperation is personal weakness as opposed to a symptom they're all experiencing from White Imperialism. Because this human connection, this frith, is as essential for our wellbeing as water is.
So sick. How sick. I want to destroy this garbage.
Just read that piece of shit "Macbeth" and I can't BELIEVE that so many people on this hellsite are sucking Shakespeare's dick when that sick motherfucker keeps ROMANTICIZING literal murder and fucked-up relationships!
Tiktok is like this unironically
The fact that Twitter allows porn but not public death threats and tumblr allows public death threats but not porn is objectively funny and the fact that a large portion of us chose the latter over the former is objectively funnier
What if,, Vocaloid/UTAU Umineko AU. I have most of the roles figured out already but I'm too lazy to draw. Rin&Len as Shkanon is a given. Lily is Beatrice and Gumi is Battler because reasons. Miku is Erika, obviously.