I just saw the most Galaxy Brain gender take ever, from a cis man on reddit
[ID: a screenshot of a comment from reddit, with no username visible. The commend reads: This doesnât make a ton of sense to me either. Setting aside the question of whether gender/sex is assigned or observed at birth, the gender I was assigned at birth was âboy.â The gender I have now is âmanâ. Boys and men have different gender roles, and few adults identify as boys anymore. From this standpoint, every adult has a different gender than the one they had at birth. End ID]
Framing âgirlâ and âboyâ as separate genders from âwomanâ and âmanâ is such an amazing take. itâs a framework that accommodates and explains so many trans experiences. Some trans people never were their AGAB. Some feel like they were their AGAB, but that that changed (usually when puberty hits, which is when you start âbecoming a man/womanâ. The accepted societal path is that girls grow up to into women, and boys grow up into men. But some girls grow up into men, and some boys grow up into women. This guy was a boy who grew up into a man, which generally works out pretty well for people. Some boys and girls grow up into people who arenât men or women, even! Itâs like this random cis guy skipped right over transgender 101, 102, 201, etc. and stumbled directly into Transgender Nirvana.
This is like one of the things in Kate Bornsteinâs gender workbook! Maybe not exactly adult-child, itâs been awhile since I read it, but it offers some prompts for thinking about other gendered identity shifts that arenât The Big Trans One.
Ok so I've found a way to describe what Neurodivergent Can't Do Task Mode⢠feels like to neurotypicals
So you know how you can't make yourself put your hand down on a hot stovetop? There's a part of your brain that stops you from doing that? That's what Neurodivergent Can't Do Task Mode⢠feels like
Even if we want to do it, there's a barrier stopping us from doing it, and it's really hard to override
And why does our brain see the task as a hot stovetop? Because when neurotypicals finish a task, they get serotonin, but we don't get that satisfaction after completing a task. A neurotypical wouldn't get serotonin from putting their hand on a hot stovetop, it would just hurt. When we can't do a task, it's because our brain knows that the task will hurt (metaphorically) and wants to avoid that.
It's not that we're choosing not to do the task, it's that our brain is physically preventing us from doing it.
Neurotypicals can and should reblog but please don't add anything
(Sorry/not sorry about the random bolding, it makes it easier for us to read)
Oh thatâs a great example. Itâs not even really a metaphor in some cases. Because this is exactly what some of our brains are doing. For one reason or another the brain thinks that the task in question is dangerous or harmful and the mechanism keeping us from doing it is a survival mechanism.
#I always called it the wall when describing it to therapists and others #i cant physically move past it #i cant even always see what the othet side looks like #i cant just move around it because ot stretches on and on in both directions
I just want to say, if you've ever worked a low-level office job and thought 'wow this is piss-easy', that's not a sign that the work you were doing is objectively easier than other types of work, it's a sign that you were good at it.
by which I don't mean 'stop de-valuing office work' bcos that's not a real problem, no-one is doing that, I just feel like a lot of young people aren't aware that e.g. being able to type fast and accurately, open up a computer program you've never used before and figure it out unaided, are marketable skills, not things that 'everyone' knows how to do.
I've worked in 'easy' office jobs for 6 years now and believe me, some people are bad at them & do not find them easy.
In a job-hunting group I was in once, one woman talked about how, when the power had gone out, she and some other staff members carried all the vital paperwork and some chairs and tables down several flights of stairs to the sidewalk out front (where there was daylight to work by) and processed a bunch of clientsâ needs, at least temporarily, and rescheduled appointments and stuff so that when the power came back up everything was still fairly organized and no clients were just turned away. And we all said âThatâs the kind of thing you need to include in your resume.â And she said, âBut anyone can do that; thatâs not anything special.â And weâre all staring at her, going, âNo, they canât. Yes, it is.â
That thing you know you did/do really well? Itâs probably special.
#me at my new job #i got a promotion to the head of the team even tho we were all hired about the same time #because im really fucking good at spreadsheets and skimming dense info and following scripts #organizing methods of communication #being CONSISTENT with my notes #i make phone calls all day and im fucking GOOD at it #unfortunately my ability to create order out of chaos is currently hindering me #because the general BROADER system is chaotic #and its beyond my current means to organize it #but i keep trying đ #and it distracts me from my actual role #im getting better at letting it go but im gonna be in a meeting at hq soon and im absolutely gonna bring it up #'heres what im good at. let me make your company better. it will cost you nothing except my actual current paycheck'
âbodily autonomy for some marginalized groups but not allâ will literally never, ever work. the right to abortion and the right to medical transition and the right to engage in gay sex and the right to take birth control are inextricably linked by the core right of bodily autonomy. shooting one kills them all. support othersâ bodily autonomy or yours will be taken too
if you got like a 100kilo bag of glitter and opened it up and left it in the path of like a tornado i think that would be interesting. i dont care abt ecological damage btw
god please please please turn me into a multicolored clump of loose threads that have knotted themselved together in the dryer & drifted away when the load was removed & caught in a tree branch & got picked up by a bird & got woven into a nest & fell out when the birds left n the nest deteriorated & got stuck in a crack on the sidewalk forever and ever amen
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