gay men’s bodies aren’t jokes, twinks are awesome, bears are awesome, otters are awesome, hunks are awesome, unaligned men are awesome, top and bottom aren’t personalities, there’s no way to “act” like a top or a bottom, top doesn’t mean masculine, bottom doesn’t mean feminine, men showing femininity isn’t sexual, every feminine man isn’t a twink, gay men don’t have to want sex to be real gay men, gay sex is epic and holy and beautiful
The bear community was the first place I found genuinely fat people to be considered genuinely desirable, us fat hairy people that are ugly and gross absolutely anywhere else not just ‘accepted’ as ‘okay if we massively increase the range of what we consider sexy I guess m a y b e you can eke in at the very bottom’ but ‘these bodies are actively more attractive than others’. …Please don’t change its meaning to ‘person with bulky muscles, possibly with body hair’.
having a job is very weird bcos by and large your coworkers will be a variety of ages and you will not all be at the same stage of life. your coworker will be like, well I’m off home to spend time with my husband & child, what are you going to do with your evening? and you’re like, well, I plan on playing Rollercoaster Tycoon for as much as it as possible
#yeah my entire team is like a decade older than me lmao
Me sittin’ here, seriously concerned for all the young kids who are gonna’ grow up in this fandom environment thinking they’re secretly evil monsters because their sex fantasies aren’t strictly pure or vanilla or because they ship something with an unhealthy dynamic. Soooooo many people must hate/be terrified of themselves.
Hey…….hey kids…….
You’re fuckin’ fine.
The human brain is weird. Sex fantasies ≠ actual desires. If you ask yourself, “would I want to act out this thing in real life” and the answer is “fuck no,” then you’re fine. Shipping is also not an indicator of what you would condone in real life. You are not secretly a monster. You are a human being. Human beings are complicated. Please calm down and treat yourself to a smoothie or something.
The entire “horror” genre is built on this. Ditto “thrillers”, and indeed most other genres. In fact, possibly the only genre which isn’t inherently built on this assumption is “romance”, and even there… well, there’s a lot of romance stories which are basically about “I want to experience catharsis” rather than “I want this to happen to me” (consider Wuthering Heights, for example - Heathcliff and Catherine are great to read about, but they would each be hell to live with).
This also means if you’re asexual but you still like reading stories where people fuck? You’re still asexual. If you’re aromantic and enjoy reading romances, you’re still aromantic. If you’re non-heterosexual and enjoy reading heterosexual porn (because hey, there’s more of it and it’s easier to find than anything else, right?) then you’re still not heterosexual.
The only thing your taste in reading says anything about is your taste in reading.
Xena: Warrior Princess wouldn't make it on tv today because y'all would be all excited about the gay swordswoman show at first and then y'all would be like "But Xena killed people :( Bad representation"
#Tbf tho the bechdel test is pretty shitty #Like dgmw this is a stupid take but it's a lame test anyway
okay but do you understand that liz wallace made the bechdel-WALLACE test because she was a dyke who wanted to go to movies and pretend the characters were dykes and her friend alison bechdel happened to put her silly little litmus assessment into a comic strip and then the rest of everyone else decided it was a bona fide way of means testing media for Feminist Content? do you know that? it doesn't sound like you know that
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