Updated my ghosts playlist for season 3
Updated my ghosts playlist for season 3
i know people complain about this all the time but the more i watch older films, the more it irritates me that humour these days in movies seems to translate directly to "self-aware", ironic or quippy dialogue.
yes, this is about the MCU, but it's also about literally everything else. this Ryan Reynolds-ification of cinema is horrific because all the characters ever seem to do- and this is true of many films, mcu and otherwise- is laugh at the audience. every single character is always essentially saying: do you realise how silly our premise is? how improbably this circumstance is? and yet here you are, paying good money to watch me mock the premise of the story I'm telling. Ha-ha.
I'm bored. it was funny once. maybe even twice. but it's constant and it's marketed as 'clever' but it's just offensive. movie-goers shouldn't have to to be pulled out of the story for some stupid punchline. i don't care that aliens from three million years in the future have traveled through space and time to eat dinosaurs. i don't care! i'm interested. i'm interested enough to spend my time in this world that's been created. i like the idea. so why the absolute FUCK are your jokes about how insane this is?
movies are magic.
above all else, movies make magic real. it's an immersive experience- visual storytelling where there are literally no limits in what the audience can see, can imagine, can live through. and every single script seems hellbent on removing us from the reality of that universe so we can be in on some non-existing joke. it's awful!!!!!!!!!
i don't care!!!!!!! i want to take ur movie seriously!!!!!!!! i don't care that ur lead is a man with penguin wings instead of arms and teeth made of stone i don't care that it's surreal i want to revel in the absurdity of a universe i don't exist in!!!!!!!!! i want humour from within the situation, not about it i'm so sick of it i'm sick i'm sick i'm fucking BORED!!!
STOP ROBBING CINEMA OF ITS MAGIC ITS SUCH A DISSERVICE!!
#if every character is deadpool deadpool is no longer interesting#<- idk if that makes sense and like. most 4th wall breakage isn't as outright as deadpools. but like...#in the comics at least. dp breaking the 4th wall is unique (with exceptions. or just one really. and gwenpool is my bestie i can't complain#)but like if your characters are cracking jokes about how unlikely it is to be dealing with both magic and aliens#in a world in which it is established that magic is. not commonplace but not unheard of either#and aliens have attacked new york semi-annually#it just. it's not funny. it's just jarring. it ruins the suspension of disbelief#and im using the mcu as an example because it's easy#anyway if you don't watch older films you should. i have recs if you want them. (via @lizbat)
you're right and you should say it!!!
breaking the fourth wall on its own is not bad. fleabag, ferris bueller, fight club, malcolm in the middle, amelie... all of them break the fourth wall but it's not a gimmick. it's not done with the intention of you laughing at the absurdity of the situation, it's to rope the audience further into the story, as if you were a friend watching this unfold. there is such a huge difference and it is that these films don't laugh at themselves. when i say 'take ur movie seriously' i don't mean it has to be drab or devoid of humour. i mean make humour out of the "reality" OF the film without damaging the narrative. the tags are exactly right in that too much of it makes it nonsensical. it makes it boring, predictable, and most of all, it sucks the fun out of the film because suddenly, you're not a fan of the movie anymore. you're a fan of the character trashing their OWN MOVIE and it's fucking HEARTBREAKING!!
Eduardo from Foster's Home has the same color scheme as the ace flag 💜
the key to being a hater and not have it be corrosive to your spirit is that you gotta balance it out by openly loving things too. trashing shit is only respectable if you’re also capable of joy and not just oozing negativity 24/7. also when you’re being positive you’re not allowed to do it with ironic detachment. all sincerity all the time babey
the funnest form of being a hater is hating something you actually have so much love for but sucks. it’s cathartic. corny people are always like ‘if you hate x so much don’t talk about it 😒 positivity always <3’ you could NEVER understand our WARRIORS BOND
i’ve been on hold at my library for a book about asexuality for a few weeks and i just read an article about some concepts in the book re: consent. and holy shit. blew my mind. i’ve NEVER read about consent in the context of a relationship with an ace and an allo that resonated so strongly with me, and as a person in such a relationship!! it’s so!!! i’m even more excited for the book now.
for anyone interested, the article is How to Negotiate Better Consent: An Asexual Perspective and the book i’m waiting for is Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society and the Meaning of Sex.
god okay, just to gush about this more, the author suggests using the categories of enthusiastic, willing, unwilling and coerced consent (rather than just “enthusiastic consent” or “no means no”). i really recommend reading the whole article linked above, but what blew my mind is the distinction between enthusiastic and willing consent. it gets broken down like this:
When I want you
When I don’t fear the consequences of saying yes OR saying no
When saying no means missing out on something I want
When I care about you though I don’t desire you (right now)
When I’m pretty sure saying yes will have an okay result and I think maybe that I’d regret saying no
When I believe that desire may begin after I say yes
and like!!! it made me realize i may have never actually enthusiastically consented in my life, but like, that doesn’t mean i have never or cannot consent! i almost always fall into the “willing consent” framework and i’ve never seen that….validated anywhere. anyway, it’s just given me this perspective about my sexuality and consent in general and better ways to relate to my partner and!!! idk!!! thank goodness for other ace people, is what i’m saying.
This is very useful and a lot of sex work can also be best understood as willing consent, where the indirect consequences of having sex (getting paid) are what is desired and the direct consequences (having probably-mediocre sex with someone you don’t actively desire) are not considered so negative that they outweigh the indirect consequences.
Which is a definition of consent that gives sex workers agency and sees their consent as a choice made again and again based on the pros and cons, not something that is coerced and also not something that always exists by default simply because they are sex workers.
Recognizing willing consent is probably validating for a lot of people who have consent to sex without meeting the definition of enthusiastic consent.