I love writing fantasy, and I’m a sucker for the kings and gods and swords and sorcery as much as the next person, but one of the things I think deeply influenced me from the incarnations of the genre I started with, is the idea that all of those things are inevitably made of the mundane context that surrounds them.
A quest means something because of the place you left and the food you eat along the way. A sword means something because of the metal it was excised from and the hands that it was forged with and the forging culture of how that person assembled it.
Because very often, we’re presented with the opposite. The hero comes from a small town that is framed as boring and meaningless, to be transcended on their way to date much cooler people, do much cooler things, and probably end up an aristocrat. (but they’re better than the extant aristocrats, because they have the mythologizable Ruggedness of a presumed everyman)
The sword is born perfect, made by the gods in a single plume of light, and there is no methodology or implications to the how and why and from-what.
It makes sense. Fantasy is fantasy. And one of the conflicts of fantasy, bone-deep, is that the umbrella of fantasy accommodates both a love of life, and a resentment of it.
You can like fantasy because you think of the world as beautiful and painful and terrifying and dark and by all accounts worth telling a story about, and the language of magic and myth are ways that you talk about the wonder of the world that we live in.
You can like fantasy because you think of the world as dreary and meaningless and you wish to escape it to a better one, and the magic is as far away from reality as you can make it. That one has always been some degree of popular; I think it makes sense when things are as scary as they are right now.
I don’t strictly think there’s a right or wrong answer; I think that different people need different things, but when I was younger, I valued escapism far more, and as an adult, I now want to believe in a fantasy where elements of reality anchor it down to allow it to spiral ever higher.