Becky our neighbourhood queen giving us a daily reminder that you don't have to apologize and feel bad for not stooping your worth to someone else's level, and just being an amazing friend to Anya :")
She's the "rich girl" trope done right
If you have read my older posts about my parents and think i am exaggerating. Read this.
Yesterday night we went out to eat. We wanted to go to a place where we can't sit. We have to stand and eat. Since it is a pretty famous place it was crowded.
We went there by my bedtime. I have a cold. I was a bit hungry but not THAT hungry.
While we were waiting for our order, i was feeling a little suffocated so I moved away from the crowd to get some fresh air. My uncle and aunt were getting food, i was not standing with my sister and little cousins.
The air was not enough. I was starting to see black spots in my vision. I told my sister about it. I went to the side to prop myself against the wall.
My mom came back with food and handed it to me. I hesitated but took it thinking i can do it. I was wrong. In a few seconds, i lost conscious and fell. Literally fell on the ground.
Next thing i one my mom was screaming my name. The first thing i thought when i came to was, "shit i fell." Not because I was surprised. I was disappointed in myself. I knew if I fell i will have to face my parents.
I was confused this whole time. When i was wife awake now, i blamed my sis. I shouldn't have since she is just a dumb kid.
My aunt asked me if i was not dizzy anymore and i said yes. When i stood up, my mom did not ask if i was hurt or affirm me that I'll be alright.
No. My loving, caring mother has to blame me. She wanted to leave me at home when they planned this because i was having a class. But i wanted to go. So I went with them.
My mom said that she told me to stay home and that i should have listened. Then went on to blame my eating habit. How less i eat.
FYI, i eat enough.
She called my dad in front of me and said, "this is because of you letting her eat so little."
When we get home, my father welcomes me with a bitter, "atleast now you will eat more."
I have a bruised hip from the fall which nobody knows about because nobody gave a fuck to ask if i was hurt.
How lovely right?
why is stuff about shitty in-laws (tv tropes, cartoon strips, reddit posts) centered on catty insufferable mother-in-laws. like obviously misogyny is a huge factor but. do straight men not get filled with rage wanting to throttle the fathers of their girlfriends and wives for all the damage they've done? the only times you generally see talk of shitty fathers is absent ones. how is there no acknowledgement for fathers where she would have likely grown up happier if he had left? for when you think of or hear of the shit he's done and said, your adrenaline immediately kicks in? for when you hear them talk, all you can think is "you don't talk to someone you love like that."
so much of this rage is rooted in queerness, i know. but it's stunning nonetheless how completely ignored this focus of anger is.
blocking a family remember is so powerful, bc whenever people act up - you can be like i blocked my dad - you think i won’t block you?
I love my mother but she doesn’t realize how toxic she is. We were having a fight about how she perceives how I talk to her and she literally looks at me and goes “I had to live in fear every day as a child about being killed or raped, if either one of us had a reason to be bitchy it’s me and I don’t” AS IF WE DIDNT HAVE AN ALMOST SIMILAR CHILDHOOD. Mine may not have lasted as long as hers did but at least she was never actually raped or nearly sold for drug money like I was. Both of us have trauma that is similar and different and it is NEVER EVER OKAY TO EXCUSE SOMEONES TRAUMA TO MAKE YOURSELF FEEL SUPERIOR OR TO MAKE THEM FEEL BAD. Sometimes I wish I could just tell her to fuck off. I need to move out but rent is too fucking high where I live
“hot girl summer” i say as i sit on my couch and read my cassandra clare book while drinking pink lemonade.
I’m in my late twenties & my parents still try to control every aspect of my life. I literally have my own child. I am also a parent. They still control all they can. If I don’t do what they say they purposely make sure my child & I have nothing & fail. How is this good parenting in their mind?? How is this healthy and not toxic?
I think given the new information we got in Clouds on the Horizon, Alador might not have had a vocal role in his kids' upbringing. When Understanding Willow came out, and Amity revealed that her parents forced her to break her friendship with Willow off, Alador('s shadow) verbally tells her to make new friends with the kids they approve of. But in CotH, Alador seems to be as under Odalia's thumb as their children are.
There are then, two things we can interpret from Amity's memories: the first is the noticeable change in voice actors from Alador's (unofficial) first appearance in Amity's memories (whereas Odalia seems to have the same voice actor). The second stems from the implication that Amity misremembers the event. Since Odalia has such a power over both her husband and children, and since this may not have been apparent when Amity was young, she may have seen her parents as a united force, even if Alador didn't verbally say or do anything to support this. To her, his silence in the matter, and his willingness to go along with Odalia, was as harmful as her memory of him saying as much.
Other evidence to this is Alador himself saying that he hasn't taken a break from work (not even for illness) for five years (pretty much from when Amity was nine years old). Even before then, he might have been heavy into his work life over his family life, and while he might have had a more active role when his children were young, going from a caring parent to a complete workaholic overnight is unlikely. This was a slow progression, an almost systematic takeover to keep the family divided and under Odalia's control. Alador has a disconnect from his children, such that he has no idea what is going on in any of their lives. The kids see that their father supports their domineering mother no matter the circumstances and feel that he wouldn't intervene if there was a problem. It's masterful and completely in line with who Odalia is. Controlling, domineering, greedy, and blind to who her children are and what her family actually wants beyond her own needs.
after this i’m actually literally going to just read the book but i have to show you this section
thomas is giving nice boy….. he’s giving lovely young man…
I hate the fact that your hatred makes me hate myself too.
Realizing she says/does things just to get a reaction out of me is both like I won the game but also so exhausting.
I have to grey rock, she doesn't follow the same rules of logic or kindness that others have. I am not responsible for her feelings or actions, only she is responsible for those.
Every move is orchestrated to get a reaction and I refuse to give her one, things are only going to get harder the more she realizes she can't control me anymore.
"...hisz másra sem vágyott mint hogy egyszer független legyen, és kièrdemelje szerettei dicséretèt."
Last year, I posted a comment on a YouTube video about the events that transpired in Escaping Expulsion.
Turns out I was almost correct because Clouds on the Horizon featured a scene where Amity officially disowned her Karen of a mother, Odalia, for her corporate greediness. While she's aware of the Day of Unity, she doesn't give a single fuck about witches losing their magic and their lives and only cares about money, making her a traitor to witchkind.
After Alador had a talk with King, my respect for him has gone way up as he helped the kids fight against Odalia and destroyed the abomatons and the factory as a way of standing up to her. Their marriage was nothing but a business partnership and having had enough of her abuse and mistreatment, he disowns Odalia as well.
I have high hopes that Alador is going to divorce her for good and that he gets full custody of Amity, Edric, and Emira. Odalia doesn't deserve to be a mother because of all the horrible things that she did, especially the fact that she destroyed Amity's Tamagotchi device. She reminds me so much of Spoiled Rich from My Little Pony: Friendship Is Magic, considering both of them have greedy and manipulative personalities. If anything, she deserves to be condemned by everyone in the Boiling Isles for basically conspiring with the Emperor.
If she is also the reason why Alador and Darius hate each other, she should be included on the list of worst mothers and/or worst spouses in animation.
The fact that most people would go through the most traumatising incident of their life which will probably affect every action they make for the rest of their and then just go to school the next morning and pretend nothing happened.
What's it like coming from a normal family/household and being mentally stable? Asking for me ... lols
For some reason tonight I'm really rotating the idea of Stede (and maybe a few other crew members) meeting someone from Izzy's past who very bluntly views Edward as the corrupting influence in their relationship.
Not in a denying agency way because, please, the man is like 50 years old but...
An older relative, maybe? Like an aunt who could absolutely pull off the "We haven't been close for decades but Israel's still blood so I'm not slamming the door in his face" vibes. Someone who knew Izzy growing up and can say sure he was an angry little shit who got in fights but he wasn't a murderer until he met that pirate and now look at him. Said not so much with judgement as with the weary resignation of someone who long ago accepted that he's not interested in leaving Blackbeard's crew alive.
Because, like, anyone who has known Izzy since forever would have seen a shift. Killing people for Edward's safety and his attention and his approval. A person who isn't naturally predisposed to sadism becoming crueler to service the myth of Blackbeard. Going from doing piracy to live to doing it out of intense toxic devotion. He wasn't born like this, and Edward and Izzy have definitely made each other worse in ways that an outside perspective could notice.
Stede and crew have gotten to know Edward well enough that they must think Izzy is a toxic influence on him going into season 2, so I just think it would be intriguingly brain breaking to meet someone who was just like "Edward Teach? That bastard who got his claws deep enough in Israel's soul that I'm just waiting for the day he'll hang beside him or throw himself on the funeral pyre? Yeah. I've met him. He can go to hell."
What do you do when feeling unsafe??
Trying to relax with my abuser around is so hard. I am stuck being in this situation, i cant concentrate. I just want to be safe
I hate how parents will tell you how you don't do anything. How your own home isn't yours. How you're just useless and don't do nothing. You are just a guest in your own life. Yep, I know I'm a piece of shit. I know I'm nothing. I'm just done. I'll never be good enough. I'm not worth anything. It's fine. It's cool.
From what I've been told about the lack of access to transitional housing, and the fact that my sister has made it so difficult for me to apply for jobs, go to job interviews, or work, I will have to stay at her house for the rest of the year.
I'm going to do my very best to compartmentalize over the next six months and just try to finish this master's and get into UNLV.
It sucks that this is my reality. I'm fucking wrecked, tbh.
