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  • allmightydepression
    22.05.2022 - 9 hours ago

    Becky our neighbourhood queen giving us a daily reminder that you don't have to apologize and feel bad for not stooping your worth to someone else's level, and just being an amazing friend to Anya :")

    She's the "rich girl" trope done right

    #ive said this before somewhere else n ill say it again #becky is what gossip girls characters would be if they had a good written personality and were way more unproblematic and way less toxic #becky blackbell#anya forger #she's a material gurl💅 #she also has better morals than many other people #yeah being a confident material gwurl and an unproblematic queen can cooexist in a single character #spy x family #Becky Blackbell#loid forger#yor forger
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  • theclosetedandro
    22.05.2022 - 9 hours ago

    If you have read my older posts about my parents and think i am exaggerating. Read this.

    Yesterday night we went out to eat. We wanted to go to a place where we can't sit. We have to stand and eat. Since it is a pretty famous place it was crowded.

    We went there by my bedtime. I have a cold. I was a bit hungry but not THAT hungry.

    While we were waiting for our order, i was feeling a little suffocated so I moved away from the crowd to get some fresh air. My uncle and aunt were getting food, i was not standing with my sister and little cousins.

    The air was not enough. I was starting to see black spots in my vision. I told my sister about it. I went to the side to prop myself against the wall.

    My mom came back with food and handed it to me. I hesitated but took it thinking i can do it. I was wrong. In a few seconds, i lost conscious and fell. Literally fell on the ground.

    Next thing i one my mom was screaming my name. The first thing i thought when i came to was, "shit i fell." Not because I was surprised. I was disappointed in myself. I knew if I fell i will have to face my parents.

    I was confused this whole time. When i was wife awake now, i blamed my sis. I shouldn't have since she is just a dumb kid.

    My aunt asked me if i was not dizzy anymore and i said yes. When i stood up, my mom did not ask if i was hurt or affirm me that I'll be alright.

    No. My loving, caring mother has to blame me. She wanted to leave me at home when they planned this because i was having a class. But i wanted to go. So I went with them.

    My mom said that she told me to stay home and that i should have listened. Then went on to blame my eating habit. How less i eat.

    FYI, i eat enough.

    She called my dad in front of me and said, "this is because of you letting her eat so little."

    When we get home, my father welcomes me with a bitter, "atleast now you will eat more."

    I have a bruised hip from the fall which nobody knows about because nobody gave a fuck to ask if i was hurt.

    How lovely right?

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  • softened-hearts
    22.05.2022 - 10 hours ago

    why is stuff about shitty in-laws (tv tropes, cartoon strips, reddit posts) centered on catty insufferable mother-in-laws. like obviously misogyny is a huge factor but. do straight men not get filled with rage wanting to throttle the fathers of their girlfriends and wives for all the damage they've done? the only times you generally see talk of shitty fathers is absent ones. how is there no acknowledgement for fathers where she would have likely grown up happier if he had left? for when you think of or hear of the shit he's done and said, your adrenaline immediately kicks in? for when you hear them talk, all you can think is "you don't talk to someone you love like that."

    so much of this rage is rooted in queerness, i know. but it's stunning nonetheless how completely ignored this focus of anger is.

    #not to mention toxic MILs getting treated as a joke rather than a source of trauma too #this isn't like. probably the most intelligent of posting i just. almost had to do a Big Confrontation with him yesterday #and i've been in a directionless fog ever since. grounding coping mechanisms aren't being particularly helpful #i hate him so much and hate this institution built up that makes him think he's in the right by default #he's a fox news watching reagan loving far-right bootlicker who makes everyone he lives with miserable #ultimately of course i hope he gets well because thats what i want for everyone #but he doesnt want to acknowledge he's unwell or get help. he just. agh #he is only nice to others insofar as it makes him look good or conveniences him #and certainly in ways that he alone wants to be nice without taking into consideration the wants of others #he's an absolute prick and in my dreams i cry and scream at him of all his injustices i've been told of secondhand #and that he has a wakeup call and kicks his ass into gear to reverse the damage as much as possible #it's clear he's miserable because his family is sick of him but it just pushes him further into altright pipeline shit #idk.im just really mad and wish he would do better because he absolutely could if he would admit he's done wrong #personal rambles #parental abuse tw
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  • prettydead
    22.05.2022 - 12 hours ago

    blocking a family remember is so powerful, bc whenever people act up - you can be like i blocked my dad - you think i won’t block you?

    #IMMA GHOST CALL ME PHANTOM | ooc post #it really is a vibe #if you have a toxic family member i recommend it
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  • finding-lambsauce
    22.05.2022 - 12 hours ago

    I love my mother but she doesn’t realize how toxic she is. We were having a fight about how she perceives how I talk to her and she literally looks at me and goes “I had to live in fear every day as a child about being killed or raped, if either one of us had a reason to be bitchy it’s me and I don’t” AS IF WE DIDNT HAVE AN ALMOST SIMILAR CHILDHOOD. Mine may not have lasted as long as hers did but at least she was never actually raped or nearly sold for drug money like I was. Both of us have trauma that is similar and different and it is NEVER EVER OKAY TO EXCUSE SOMEONES TRAUMA TO MAKE YOURSELF FEEL SUPERIOR OR TO MAKE THEM FEEL BAD. Sometimes I wish I could just tell her to fuck off. I need to move out but rent is too fucking high where I live

    #family sucks#mom problems #please understand me #abuse#family trauma#toxic mom #love you but #it’s too much
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  • cherylblossomgf
    21.05.2022 - 14 hours ago

    “hot girl summer” i say as i sit on my couch and read my cassandra clare book while drinking pink lemonade.

    #also i was joking before but alastair really IS the most toxic individual the carstairs family has ever produced. and i love him #beth.txt
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  • xffwithmikshead
    21.05.2022 - 16 hours ago

    I’m in my late twenties & my parents still try to control every aspect of my life. I literally have my own child. I am also a parent. They still control all they can. If I don’t do what they say they purposely make sure my child & I have nothing & fail. How is this good parenting in their mind?? How is this healthy and not toxic?

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  • hotdoghottakes
    21.05.2022 - 17 hours ago

    I think given the new information we got in Clouds on the Horizon, Alador might not have had a vocal role in his kids' upbringing. When Understanding Willow came out, and Amity revealed that her parents forced her to break her friendship with Willow off, Alador('s shadow) verbally tells her to make new friends with the kids they approve of. But in CotH, Alador seems to be as under Odalia's thumb as their children are.

    There are then, two things we can interpret from Amity's memories: the first is the noticeable change in voice actors from Alador's (unofficial) first appearance in Amity's memories (whereas Odalia seems to have the same voice actor). The second stems from the implication that Amity misremembers the event. Since Odalia has such a power over both her husband and children, and since this may not have been apparent when Amity was young, she may have seen her parents as a united force, even if Alador didn't verbally say or do anything to support this. To her, his silence in the matter, and his willingness to go along with Odalia, was as harmful as her memory of him saying as much.

    Other evidence to this is Alador himself saying that he hasn't taken a break from work (not even for illness) for five years (pretty much from when Amity was nine years old). Even before then, he might have been heavy into his work life over his family life, and while he might have had a more active role when his children were young, going from a caring parent to a complete workaholic overnight is unlikely. This was a slow progression, an almost systematic takeover to keep the family divided and under Odalia's control. Alador has a disconnect from his children, such that he has no idea what is going on in any of their lives. The kids see that their father supports their domineering mother no matter the circumstances and feel that he wouldn't intervene if there was a problem. It's masterful and completely in line with who Odalia is. Controlling, domineering, greedy, and blind to who her children are and what her family actually wants beyond her own needs.

    #the owl house #toh#toh spoilers #the owl house spoilers #alador blight#amity blight #edric and emira #edric blight#emira blight#odalia blight #toxic family dynamics #control issues #parents as people #divide and conquer #healing from abuse #selective memory
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  • cherylblossomgf
    21.05.2022 - 18 hours ago

    after this i’m actually literally going to just read the book but i have to show you this section

    thomas is giving nice boy….. he’s giving lovely young man…

    #cannot WAIT to see him fall in love with the most toxic individual the carstairs family has ever produced <3 #beth.txt
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  • dont-tell-my-larrents
    21.05.2022 - 18 hours ago

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    #ah hell still listening to Matilda #bro as an Mexican immigrant daughter who had to move out of my toxic parents house this one hits hard af #no one talks about how it feels to leave family that hurt you and how some people will be like buts its your mom their family #and my real family now the people I actually want in my life I happened to find because of 1D #sorry to make this about me but it just got me thinking
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  • sadandmadsoul
    21.05.2022 - 20 hours ago

    I hate the fact that your hatred makes me hate myself too.

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  • ventiart
    21.05.2022 - 20 hours ago

    Realizing she says/does things just to get a reaction out of me is both like I won the game but also so exhausting.

    I have to grey rock, she doesn't follow the same rules of logic or kindness that others have. I am not responsible for her feelings or actions, only she is responsible for those.

    Every move is orchestrated to get a reaction and I refuse to give her one, things are only going to get harder the more she realizes she can't control me anymore.

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  • peacelivesonwaves
    21.05.2022 - 23 hours ago

    "...hisz másra sem vágyott mint hogy egyszer független legyen, és kièrdemelje szerettei dicséretèt."

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  • stanley578
    21.05.2022 - 1 day ago

    Odalia Blight is a bitch!

    Last year, I posted a comment on a YouTube video about the events that transpired in Escaping Expulsion.

    Turns out I was almost correct because Clouds on the Horizon featured a scene where Amity officially disowned her Karen of a mother, Odalia, for her corporate greediness. While she's aware of the Day of Unity, she doesn't give a single fuck about witches losing their magic and their lives and only cares about money, making her a traitor to witchkind.

    After Alador had a talk with King, my respect for him has gone way up as he helped the kids fight against Odalia and destroyed the abomatons and the factory as a way of standing up to her. Their marriage was nothing but a business partnership and having had enough of her abuse and mistreatment, he disowns Odalia as well.

    I have high hopes that Alador is going to divorce her for good and that he gets full custody of Amity, Edric, and Emira. Odalia doesn't deserve to be a mother because of all the horrible things that she did, especially the fact that she destroyed Amity's Tamagotchi device. She reminds me so much of Spoiled Rich from My Little Pony: Friendship Is Magic, considering both of them have greedy and manipulative personalities. If anything, she deserves to be condemned by everyone in the Boiling Isles for basically conspiring with the Emperor.

    If she is also the reason why Alador and Darius hate each other, she should be included on the list of worst mothers and/or worst spouses in animation.

    #the owl house #toh #the owl house season 2 #toh season 2 #the owl house season 2b #toh season 2b #clouds on the horizon #amity blight#alador blight#odalia blight #odalia blight is a karen #odalia blight sucks #fuck odalia blight #toxic is toxic #toxic family
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  • moonlxver28
    21.05.2022 - 1 day ago

    The fact that most people would go through the most traumatising incident of their life which will probably affect every action they make for the rest of their and then just go to school the next morning and pretend nothing happened.

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  • riahlepapaya
    21.05.2022 - 1 day ago

    What's it like coming from a normal family/household and being mentally stable? Asking for me ... lols

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  • ladyluscinia
    21.05.2022 - 1 day ago

    For some reason tonight I'm really rotating the idea of Stede (and maybe a few other crew members) meeting someone from Izzy's past who very bluntly views Edward as the corrupting influence in their relationship.

    Not in a denying agency way because, please, the man is like 50 years old but...

    An older relative, maybe? Like an aunt who could absolutely pull off the "We haven't been close for decades but Israel's still blood so I'm not slamming the door in his face" vibes. Someone who knew Izzy growing up and can say sure he was an angry little shit who got in fights but he wasn't a murderer until he met that pirate and now look at him. Said not so much with judgement as with the weary resignation of someone who long ago accepted that he's not interested in leaving Blackbeard's crew alive.

    Because, like, anyone who has known Izzy since forever would have seen a shift. Killing people for Edward's safety and his attention and his approval. A person who isn't naturally predisposed to sadism becoming crueler to service the myth of Blackbeard. Going from doing piracy to live to doing it out of intense toxic devotion. He wasn't born like this, and Edward and Izzy have definitely made each other worse in ways that an outside perspective could notice.

    Stede and crew have gotten to know Edward well enough that they must think Izzy is a toxic influence on him going into season 2, so I just think it would be intriguingly brain breaking to meet someone who was just like "Edward Teach? That bastard who got his claws deep enough in Israel's soul that I'm just waiting for the day he'll hang beside him or throw himself on the funeral pyre? Yeah. I've met him. He can go to hell."

    #our flag means death #i like getting multiple perspectives on toxic relationships and for protagonist reasons an 'edward critical' one would be very interesting #also i'm fond of the dynamic between two people who have known each other forever but also would *never* talk if not for some duty #like maybe izzy stops by every year or two to give the family some blood money and drink some shitty rum #and make some dry quips about being a disappointment to his dead mother #a little tragic but in the old wounds kind of way #(of course no idea how we narratively arrange this meeting) #(best i've got is a safe place to go behind edward's back if izzy and stede partner against the kraken?) #izzy hands ofmd #blackbeard ofmd #stede bonnet ofmd #blackizzy #mutual toxicity baby ~ <3 #ladyluscinia
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  • ventiart
    20.05.2022 - 1 day ago

    What do you do when feeling unsafe??

    Trying to relax with my abuser around is so hard. I am stuck being in this situation, i cant concentrate. I just want to be safe

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  • battling-my-demons
    20.05.2022 - 1 day ago

    I hate how parents will tell you how you don't do anything. How your own home isn't yours. How you're just useless and don't do nothing. You are just a guest in your own life. Yep, I know I'm a piece of shit. I know I'm nothing. I'm just done. I'll never be good enough. I'm not worth anything. It's fine. It's cool.

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  • ambitiousollie
    20.05.2022 - 1 day ago

    From what I've been told about the lack of access to transitional housing, and the fact that my sister has made it so difficult for me to apply for jobs, go to job interviews, or work, I will have to stay at her house for the rest of the year.

    I'm going to do my very best to compartmentalize over the next six months and just try to finish this master's and get into UNLV.

    It sucks that this is my reality. I'm fucking wrecked, tbh.

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